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Stop Chasing, Just Commit – What I Keep Learning From Loving a Good Woman | Bonko Khoza

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[S2] EPISODE 17: SHE GAVE ME FREEDOM TO FIND MY VOICE
In this episode, we sit down with the incredibly thoughtful and grounded Bonko Khoza — not just as an actor, but as a husband, father, and man who continues to wrestle honestly with what it means to show up for the people he loves. This is a conversation between husbands for husbands, where we strip back the performances and talk real about legacy, failure, oneness, sacrifice, and the quiet strength it takes to stay committed — not just to our wives, but to the kind of men we aspire to be.
We talk about the gift and weight of fatherhood, the long road of partnership, and how black men are redefining marriage not as an institution of performance, but of purpose. Bonko shares deeply about how his wife has been both his safety and mirror, and how navigating change within marriage requires humility, introspection, and a kind of teamwork that often goes unseen. This episode isn’t about perfection — it’s about persistence, vulnerability, and learning to love from a place of truth, not tradition.
If you're a husband, or hope to be one, this episode is a love letter to the sacred and messy middle of marriage. It's for those who grew up without examples and those who carry the legacy of good men. It's for the ones trying to break cycles, build homes, and do the work of becoming. As always, this space is for us — to know better so we can do better. Welcome back to That Husband Podcast.
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A Shack, A Secret & A Dream: She Stayed Even With A Leaking Roof - Jacob Msipha

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[S2] EPISODE 16: HOW FAR ARE YOU WILLING TO GO?
In this episode, we sit down with Pastor Jacob Msipha, a man whose 20-year journey through marriage and ministry defies the odds and dismantles the myths. From building a church in a leaking shack to nurturing a vibrant home, Pastor Jacob opens up about the grace, grit, and vision that have carried him through seasons of triumph and turbulence. His story is not one of perfection, but of relentless faith and deeply intentional love. If you've ever questioned whether favour follows marriage, this conversation will challenge and uplift you.
We unpack what it means to be a husband—not just in title, but in spirit, vision, and responsibility. With humility and wisdom, Pastor Jacob reflects on the importance of vision-casting in marriage, the power of vulnerability, and how trust in God becomes the anchor when clarity fades. He doesn't shy away from the hard moments—those when depression, doubt, or silence from heaven fill the room—but he reminds us that the strength of a marriage often lies not in answers, but in who we become while waiting for them.
More than a podcast episode, this is a masterclass in building: building marriages, building families, and building legacy. Whether you're newly married, a decade in, or still wrestling with what partnership looks like, Pastor Jacob’s reflections will meet you where you are. Tune in, take notes, and be reminded—this isn't about becoming superheroes; it's about showing up, every day, and choosing to build anyway.
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I Was A Christian Leader, Then I Got Her Pregnant - Lebohang Mohoera (fixed audio)

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[S2] EPISODE 15: REALITY CHECK!
In this raw and soul-baring episode, we sit down with Lebo—a young man, a youth leader, a soon-to-be husband—who opens up about the most sobering season of his life. From preaching on the streets, to falling in love with a woman he dreamed of marrying, Lebo takes us through a journey marked by conviction, love, and an unexpected pregnancy. What unfolds is not just a story of “crossing the line” but one of wrestling with leadership, identity, and faith under the weight of public failure.
This isn't your typical testimony. It’s the emotional unpacking of what it means to own your mistakes, not just privately but publicly—before your church, your family, your peers, and the very youth you were leading. Lebo doesn’t run from his role as a man; instead, he leans into it, bearing the full weight of accountability and finding unexpected strength in the process. In a world where ghosting responsibility is the norm, this is a call back to staying—when it’s hardest, most humiliating, and when the stakes couldn’t be higher.
Whether you’re a man struggling with hidden shame, a couple navigating blurry lines, or someone needing a reminder that grace isn’t just an idea but a lived reality, this episode will meet you in the thick of it. It’s unfiltered, reflective, and redemptive—and ultimately, it’s about a man who slipped on the job but didn’t stay down. This is what it looks like to lead even when you’re broken.
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I Want To Do Marriage Right, But No One Is Showing Men How - Manelisi Mdaka

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[S2] EPISODE 14: MARRIAGE GATEKEEPERS
I sat across the table from a man who's about to get married in four months—and what followed was one of the most honest conversations I've ever had on this podcast. He didn’t come with clichés or curated answers. He came with questions. Real ones. The kind that strip the fantasy from marriage and ask what’s actually underneath. Why marriage? Why her? What’s it supposed to shape in us as men? And how do we know we’re not walking into this thing with more ambition than understanding?
In this episode, I don’t come as an expert, but as a husband still learning—still being chiseled. Together, we talk about what marriage reveals about God, about ourselves, and about the kind of love that refuses to quit. We wrestle with the weight of commitment, the humility that comes when your spouse sees the real you, and the joy that can only be found when two sinners choose to stay. We talk interracial love, long-distance strain, friendship before romance, and the terrifying beauty of becoming like Jesus through covenant love.
If you're a man trying to make sense of marriage—whether you're single, dating, engaged, or already in it—this conversation is for you. It’s not polished. It’s not perfect. But it’s real. And if you’re anything like us, you’ll walk away from this episode a little more honest, a little more hopeful, and a little more willing to become the man marriage is calling you to be. Hit play. Let’s talk.
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Broke, Two Babies & Getting Evicted: How Rock Bottom Built My Marriage - Lindo Zindela

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[S2] EPISODE 13: MARRIED BROKE, BUILD RICH
What does it mean to be a “present man” in a world pulling you in every direction? In this heart-stirring episode of That Husband Podcast, we sit down with Lindo ( ⁨@TheZindelas⁩  ) husband, father, and creative force—whose story is as sobering as it is inspiring. From a bachelor pad with no diapers to a home overflowing with love and purpose, Lindo walks us through the gritty journey of finding himself while choosing his wife, his kids, and his calling every single day.
This episode is for the husbands who are tired of pretending, the men who feel the weight of legacy, and the brothers who are navigating the blurry line between becoming their fathers or forging something new. Lindo speaks candidly about growing up with a present but traditional father, the life-changing year he spent with a nurturing uncle, and how learning to embrace both lion and lamb taught him to lead with softness and strength. Together, we explore the power of knowing who you are, why your marriage might not be the problem—it might be your own identity crisis—and how a wife’s quiet support can be the loudest miracle in a man’s life.
This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a mirror. One that reminds us we’re not lazy for starting and stopping; we’re just on a different kind of journey. If you’ve ever wondered whether you're enough, whether your family sees your effort, or whether love really can change the narrative—we invite you to pull up a chair. Welcome to That Husband Podcast: where we give marriage the PR it actually deserves.
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9 Years Sober, 2 Months Married - Hope For The Broken Man - Codi van der Merwe

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[S2] EPISODE 12: RECOVERY HAS BROUGHT STRUCTURE TO MY LEADERSHIP
In this heartfelt and hilarious episode of That Husband Podcast, Blaque sits down with newlywed Codi van der Merwe—just two months into marriage but already deep in the thick of it. From garlic debates in the kitchen to learning how to simply sit and watch your wife's favourite show, Codi opens up about the joy and humility marriage brings. Together, they explore the raw question: What is a husband? Codi’s answer is honest, refreshing, and packed with lessons from his journey of recovery, routine, and learning to lead with love.
The episode doesn’t just stay lighthearted—it dives deep. Codi shares openly about his past struggles with addiction, what nine years of sobriety has taught him, and how his structured lifestyle has shaped the early rhythms of his marriage. Blaque and Codi unpack how spiritual dryness, emotional distance, and selfish habits often start with missing the “small signs.” This conversation is an invitation for husbands to be more present, more self-aware, and more in tune with their wives—before the garlic turns into something greater.
If you’re married, newlywed, or wondering what it really means to show up as a husband, this episode will leave you encouraged, challenged, and laughing. Whether you’re fighting over Forensic Files vs. Bongile or navigating real pain like addiction and healing—this one’s for you. Don’t forget to hit subscribe, leave a comment, and share this with a husband who needs to hear it.
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The Lie Men Believe About Supporting Women (And the Truth You Need to Hear) - Jabu Zwane

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[S2] EPISODE 10: WOMEN'S SUCCESS!
In a world where the numbers tell a sobering story, how can men step up to change the stats? Only 7% of women in South Africa believe that men actively enable their success, while financial constraints (45%) and a lack of mentorship and networking opportunities (32%) remain some of the biggest barriers to women’s growth. In this episode, we dive into a conversation that is not just about acknowledging the problem but about redefining the role men play in creating real change. Through storytelling, humour, and raw honesty, we explore how men can move beyond good intentions to tangible action.
Jabu Zwane—helps us unpack what’s really at stake and why this issue isn’t just a "women’s problem" but a collective responsibility. Without making this a lecture, we weave personal stories with hard-hitting truths, showing how everyday men can shift the narrative. What does it look like to be intentional about opening doors, offering mentorship, or creating financial opportunities? More importantly, what happens when men begin to see themselves as partners in progress rather than bystanders?
This episode is more than just talk—it’s a call to action. We want to encourage you to walk away with practical insights on how you can be part of the solution. If we truly believe in a future where success isn’t defined by gender but by opportunity, then the real question is: what are we willing to do about it?
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Do I Chase My Dreams or Secure My Family‘s Future? - Linde Sibanda

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 [S2] EPISODE 9: A HUSBAND'S DILEMMA
In this heartfelt episode of That Husband Podcast, Blaque Nubon sits down with comedian and husband, Linde Sibanda  ⁨@BallDropPodcast⁩  for a raw and insightful conversation about marriage, fatherhood, and the ever-evolving role of a man. From defining what it means to be a good husband to navigating the weight of responsibility, Linde shares how his faith has shaped his journey, providing an unshakable standard amidst life’s uncertainties. With humor and wisdom, the two dive into why so many men struggle without a blueprint, and how redefining masculinity through biblical principles can change the game.
But this conversation isn’t just about marriage—it’s about fatherhood and the gut-wrenching realities that come with it. Linde opens up about a terrifying moment when his son suffered a seizure, shaking him to his core and forcing him to reevaluate everything. How do you balance pursuing your dreams while ensuring your family is secure? How does a man stay sensitive to the season he's in without letting fear or pride dictate his steps? This episode is an unfiltered look at the tension between responsibility and ambition, and how true leadership sometimes means making the hardest choices
If you’ve ever questioned your role as a husband or father, or wrestled with the pressure to provide while holding onto your dreams, this one’s for you. Join us as we unpack what it means to be present, to lead with sensitivity, and to trust God through every season of life. Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe—because real conversations like this are the ones that matter.
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When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned: Infertility, Faith Crisis, Adoption & Family Struggles - Sifiso Pule

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[S2] EPISODE 8: BATTLE TESTED
In this deeply personal and reflective episode, Sifiso Pule opens up about his 15-year journey in marriage, offering invaluable insights on love, commitment, and the lessons learned through adversity. From infertility struggles to adoption, and navigating tough times with humility and grace, he highlights the importance of perseverance, sacrifice, and intentionality in building a lasting relationship.
He shares how faith, community, and selflessness have shaped his marriage, emphasising that love isn’t about perfection, but about choosing to stay and grow together, brick by brick. With wisdom gained through years of navigating challenges—financial struggles, doctrinal disagreements, and personal failures—Sifiso reminds us that marriage is a covenant built on trust, sacrifice, and mutual growth.
This episode reflects on the vital role of community and transparency, both in marriage and parenting, and how they have supported his journey. He offers powerful advice to couples facing infertility and adoption, and underscores the transformative power of a love that calls out wrong but still loves unconditionally.
This episode is a must-watch for anyone seeking to understand the real, raw beauty of marriage and community. Whether you’re facing challenges in your relationship or simply looking for a deeper connection with your spouse, Sifiso’s honest reflections will inspire and encourage you to build something lasting, with love, faith, and commitment.
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⁠The Lies You Were Told About Manhood (And Why It’s Costing You Your Marriage) - Dj Mgabe Magabaza

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[S2] EPISODE 7: MISGUIDED MASCULINITY & HOW TO FIX IT
Growing up without a father leaves wounds that shape a man's view of himself, marriage, and fatherhood. Many men carry self-limiting beliefs rooted in abandonment, painful pasts, and distorted ideas of masculinity. In this episode, DJ Mgabe Magabaza dives deep into the journey of revisiting the "crime scene"—the place where fatherlessness killed the husband and father you could have been. We’ll explore how society steps in to raise boys in the absence of their fathers, often leading them down destructive paths, and why healing from these wounds is crucial for becoming the man God designed you to be.
Marriage isn’t just about love—it’s a responsibility, a calling to be a true image-bearer of God. Yet, too many men enter marriage emotionally unavailable, unprepared, and without accountability. We unpack why many men, raised by single mothers, unconsciously seek to marry their mothers and how this affects their ability to lead a household. The reality is, men who don’t show up as husbands and fathers do so by intention, but there’s hope. Through mentorship, accountability, and faith, men can rewrite their narratives and step into their God-given role as loving, present husbands and fathers.
A new breed of men is rising—men who refuse to be absent, who prioritize their wives' joy, who understand the weight of their financial and emotional presence. We’ll discuss the favor that comes with marriage, the cost of infidelity, and the importance of a money mindset in marriage. If men don’t heal, they’ll force their spouses and children to re-parent them. But for those willing to confront their past, a thriving marriage and a legacy of love await. Don’t miss this powerful conversation—your marriage, your children, and your future self will thank you.
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