That Husband Podcast

When Serving The Church Almost Destroyed My Marriage | Allan.P

Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 31: GOD'S WORK vs GOD'S DAUGHTERMarriage isn’t just about love stories and Instagram moments, it’s about the daily choice to show up, sacrifice, and sometimes die to self for the sake of the one you vowed to cherish. In this episode, we sit down with Allan.P to talk about what husbandhood really looks like when the butterflies fade, the fights get real, and life throws both joy and hardship our way. His story reminds us that being a husband isn’t about perfection, it’s about persistence, humility, and faithfulness when it’s easier to walk away.From the early years of marriage to raising kids and navigating the pressures of work, dreams, and ministry, Allan.P opens up about the hidden battles husbands face, the pride, the fatigue, the temptation to drift, and the weight of responsibility. Yet woven through his story is a testimony of grace: a wife who fuels his ambition, a faith that reshapes his perspective, and a vision of marriage that sees “death to self” not as loss but as the soil where love and legacy grow.This conversation isn’t just for men who think they’ve figured it out, it’s for husbands still stumbling forward, husbands carrying unseen frustrations, and husbands who need to be reminded that they’re not alone. If you’ve ever wrestled with ego, with balance, with choosing your wife over your comfort, then this episode will speak to you. Because at the end of the day, being a husband is less about having it all together, and more about being willing to learn, to sacrifice, and to keep choosing love, day after day.#thathusbandpodcast #HusbandTalks #marriagematters #husbandlife #FaithfulHusbands #marriagegodsway #marriagejourney #HusbandAndWife #christianhusbands #realmarriage #marriagegrowth #marriagepodcast #HusbandsUnite #Husbandhood #marriagestruggles #marriagewisdom #HusbandsSupportHusbands #loveandmarriagehuntsville #HusbandEncouragement #MarriageSacrifice #healthymarriage #marriageinchrist #MarriageLegacy #dietoself #MarriageFaith

How I Went From Leading Bible Study to Getting A Girl Pregnant | Ofentse Moerane

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 30: MAKING THINGS RIGHT"Nine years ago, a single phone call during Bible Study changed everything. My then-girlfriend’s trembling voice told me she was pregnant. In that moment, the future we had imagined shifted completely. What followed wasn’t just a test of faith, it was a test of love, responsibility, and resilience. Her family cut ties. My reputation in the church felt shattered. And yet, in the middle of the shock and shame, I knew one thing: I couldn’t run. I had to stay."This episode isn’t about a perfect love story. It’s about two people who stumbled hard and then chose to stand together anyway. We talk about navigating estrangement, the weight of cultural expectations, the sting of disappointing those who believed in us, and the slow, grace-filled process of rebuilding trust, with our families, our faith community, and ourselves. Along the way, we unpack how fatherhood began not in the maternity ward, but in a decision to take responsibility, even when it was costly.For husbands, future husbands, and any man who’s ever faced the gap between who he wanted to be and what actually happened, this conversation is for you. It’s about how God’s grace can take a mess and turn it into a marriage, a family, and a testimony. It’s about what we’ve learned over nine years of parenting, persevering, and leaning on each other when winter came. And it’s a reminder that even the most unexpected beginnings can lead to stories worth telling.#thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #HusbandsForHusbands #fatherhoodjourney #youngparents #marriageandfaith #RealMarriageStories #biblicalmanhood #christianhusbands #marriagepodcast #husbandlife #christianfatherhood #marriagetestimony #faithinmarriage #godlyhusband #marriagestruggles #christianpodcast #marriagerestoration #loveandresponsibility #GraceInMarriage #marriagegodsway #faithandfamily #HusbandAndWife #christianrelationships #FromMessToMarriage

What’s The Point Of Winning At Work While You're Destroying Your Home? | Ezekiel Nkotsoe

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 29: ALTAR OF AMBITIONIn this episode, we sit down with Ezekiel Nkotsoe, seven months into marriage and already confronted with the question most men never dare to ask: "Am I idolizing success at the expense of my wife?" Ezekiel shares how his obsession with performance, numbers, and being “the best” collided head-on with the quiet but holy demands of marriage. What began as a journey to build wealth and legacy was slowly revealed as a quest for validation, rooted in childhood trauma and masked as ambition.As husbands, we often say we’re grinding “for the family,” but how many Christmases can you miss before you’ve actually started grinding away from them? Ezekiel opens up about the difficult conversations with his wife, his coach, and God, uncovering the subtle lies we believe about ambition, provision, and masculinity. He reminds us that spiritual, emotional, and physical presence matters more than the car you pull into the driveway. And sometimes, the most godly ambition is learning to be content, to be present, and to serve the family God has placed in front of you.This episode is not just for the high performers or sales guys in Jozi, it’s for every husband trying to reconcile his grind with his calling. Whether you’re newly married, seasoned, or still considering what kind of man you want to be, this conversation is a sacred space for honest reflection. Because at the end of the day, no amount of ambition can hold your hand when you're old, only the woman you chose to love well can do that.#thathusbandpodcast #ChristianHusbands #MarriageMatters #godlymarriage #husbandswholead #FaithAndAmbition #MarriageOverMoney #contentmentinchrist #menofgod #christianmanhood #MarriageIsWork #BlackLoveMatters #generationalwealth #AmbitionWithPurpose #FaithfulNotFamous #HusbandsSupportingHusbands #ModernMarriageTalks #HustleAndHoliness #EmotionalProvision #GodlyMasculinity #KingdomMen #christcenteredmarriage #marriagepodcast #RealTalkForHusbands #marriageandfaith

Divorce, Loss, Hitting Rock Bottom - My Struggle To Provide For My Family | Caskey Ndaba

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 28: DON'T LEAVE A MESS BEHINDWhat happens when the baton is passed to us and we’re not ready to carry it? In this conversation with the incredibly grounded and eloquent Caskey Ndaba, we talk about what it means to become the uncles, the fathers, the leaders we once looked up to. From drafting a will to defining a family vision, we wrestle with the reality of death, not in fear, but in wisdom. Caskey reminds us that masculinity is less about the muscle and more about the mind, and that real manhood means planning, preparing, and protecting.Mr. Ndaba opens up about walking from Diepsloot to Centurion to restart his life after losing everything, including his home and career. He shares how his divorce and later, the tragic loss of his children’s mother, shaped his journey as a father and a husband. These are not just stories, they are scars with purpose. His vulnerability, wrapped in clarity and determination, reminds us that being a husband is not about perfection but about showing up, again and again, even when it hurts.We don’t just talk policies and funeral plans, we go deeper into the fears, insecurities, and silence that often keep men from leading well. Whether you're a newlywed, a father of three, or a man trying to fix the brokenness you inherited, this episode offers both a mirror and a map. Because in the end, being a husband isn’t just about loving your family, it’s about leaving them ready when you’re no longer here. Let’s talk legacy, leadership, and love—because silence is no longer an option.#thathusbandpodcast #failingforward #legacybuilding #husbandswholead #fatherhoodmatters #BlackMenLead #purposedrivenmen #masculinityredefined #ManhoodJourney #menoffaith #VisionForFamily #DeathPreparedness #WillAndTestament #lifeinsurancematters #financialfitness #ModernHusband #healingfromloss #breakinggenerationalcycles #BePresentDad #ManUpMovement #authenticmanhood #griefandgrace #RealMenPlan #LeadershipInMarriage #intentionalliving

⁠Why Getting Married In Your 30's Doesn't Make You More Ready | Sbu Dube

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[S2] EPISODE 27: CALLED TO BE PRESENT, NOT PERFECT!This week we sit down with Sbu Dube, for a heartfelt conversation where he opens up about the sacred moment he chose to love not just his wife, but her child too. He shares the weighty but beautiful decision of stepping into marriage with intention, not as a rescue plan, but as a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. With honesty and humility, he reminds us that becoming a husband isn’t about perfection, but instead, it’s about presence, sacrifice, and a willingness to grow.Together, we explore the quiet fears that fathers often carry, the pressure to get marriage “right,” and how grace makes space for dreams to flourish in the home. Sbu's story takes us through his upbringing in a family that modeled long-term commitment, the lessons he gleaned from watching his father provide with silent strength, and how he carries those values into raising his own children. From changing nappies with trembling hands to the sacred joy of baptising his daughter, Sbu reveals that fatherhood isn’t just a title, it’s a calling, and sometimes, it starts the moment you say "I do."Whether you’re in the thick of raising young children, navigating a busy work-life balance, or wrestling with the tension between dreams and duty, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone. It's a call to stay home, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. Because being a husband and father is less about doing everything right, and more about being right there when it matters most.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#thathusbandpodcast #HusbandsWhoLead #christianmarriage #blacklovestories #IntentionalFatherhood #modernmarriage #StepdadLove #marriagegodsway #PresentFathers #fathersmatter #faithandfamily #biblicalmanhood #marriagewisdom #lovelikechrist #parentingwithpurpose #husbandgoals #menoffaith #StayAtHomeDadVibes #marriageconversations #legacybuilding #fatherhoodjourney #godlymarriages #dadlifeunfiltered #christcenteredmarriage #marriagematters

The Danger Of Marrying Someone Who Can't Handle You | Tshepo Hlongwane

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 26: BE THE HUSBAND YOU ENVISIONEDWhat does it mean to be a husband in a world that’s constantly shifting its standards? In this episode, we sit with Tshepo Hlongwane, not just to talk about marriage, but to reflect on the weight and wonder of this sacred calling. From the lessons of mentorship, the quiet strength found in friendship with your spouse, to the spiritual responsibility of protecting your family, not just from physical harm but from the subtle spiritual battles, we leave no stone unturned. This is a conversation about choosing to show up even when it's hard, about repentance before repair, and about seeing your wife as a friend before a role.We dive into the real stuff. What happens when you're called to lead but feel underqualified? When your personal wiring clashes with your spouse's? When your dreams won’t let you rest? This episode unpacks how men can steward their marriages, their emotions, and their faith without letting shame or culture dictate the pace. Through laughter, conviction, and layered storytelling, this isn’t just theory, it’s lived experience. Blaque & Tshepo, wrestle with the everyday decisions that shape the men they become at home.If you're a husband who’s ever asked, "Am I doing enough? Am I becoming who God called me to be?", this episode is for you. Whether you’re newlywed, ten years deep, or just dreaming of what kind of husband you want to be, this conversation will meet you where you are. And it will push you, gently, intentionally, toward growth, friendship, and spiritual clarity. This is not just a podcast, it’s a mirror, it's a map, and it's a call to step up.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.comFOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#ThatHusbandPodcast #ChristianHusband #FaithfulMen #KingdomMarriage #MarriageMatters #GodlyManhood #HusbandLife #LeadWithLove #MenOfFaith #HusbandGoals #MarriageGodsWay #SpiritualLeadership #BiblicalManhood #ProtectAndProvide #MenWhoPray #HusbandsWhoLead #RealMenRealTalk #MarriageConversations #MentorshipMatters #FriendshipInMarriage #ChristCenteredMarriage #HusbandGrowth #PurposeDrivenMarriage #ModernManOfGod #StepUpHusbands

⁠I Hid My Pain So I Wouldn't Look Weak: The Price Men Pay To Pretend We're Okay | Alvin Fredericks

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 25: FROM PAIN TO PROMISEIn this episode, we sit with Alvin Fredericks of  @thetruedadventurer  a husband, father, and faithful follower of Christ, who walks us through a raw, heartbreaking, and ultimately redemptive journey through 5 miscarriages depression, spiritual wrestling, and healing. This isn’t just a story about grief, it’s a story about carrying unbearable weight silently, about standing at the edge of faith and finding God even when you feel abandoned. It’s a rare glimpse into what miscarriage and loss feel like for a husband, one who is expected to be strong, while silently fracturing on the inside.What do you do when you’ve done all the “right” things, but life still knocks the breath out of you? What does it mean to reflect Christ to your wife when you yourself are crumbling? Alvin opens up about being forgotten in the grief, misunderstood by the church, and pushed to the brink of ending it all. But he also shares the power of faithful friends, fatherly love, and how God used an unexpected encounter to plant the seed of hope again. This episode is not about easy answers, it’s about honest questions, deep pain, and a real Saviour.If you're a husband walking through loss, or standing beside someone who is, this episode will move you. It’s for the men who feel unseen in their suffering. It's for the ones who keep showing up despite the weight. And it’s for anyone who needs a reminder that even in deep suffering, God is not absent, He is forming something eternal. This is not just an episode; it's a lifeline.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.comFOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #faithinsuffering #husbandswholead #MarriageAfterLoss #miscarriageawareness #MenAndGrief #christianhusbands #fatherhoodjourney #infantlosssupport #biblicalmanhood #HopeInHeartbreak #GodInTheStorm #marriageministry #faithoverfeelings #healingtogether #christiantestimony #MenWithFeelings #HusbandPerspective #JesusInThePain #RealMarriageTalk #failingforward #christianpodcast #griefandgrace #christcenteredmarriage

Young, Broke, And Married: Why I Started A Family At 22 | Shaun Mahlangu

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 24: YOUNG, MARRIED & FIGURING IT OUTWhat happens when your faith, finances, and fatherhood all collide? In this honest and soul-stirring episode, we sit down with Shaun Mahlangu, a husband, father of three, and creative content creator, who opens up about the raw reality of becoming a husband at 22 and navigating life, love, and fatherhood with nothing but a dream, a prayer, and a patient wife. From counting coins, trying to buy a "kota" to losing jobs, feeling like a failure, and watching the light fade from his wife's eyes, Shaun doesn’t hold back. This isn’t just a story; it’s a mirror for every man who's ever wondered, “Am I enough?”Shaun shares how being a broke husband nearly broke him, and what it took to climb out of depression, insecurity, and envy. We discuss retrenchment and redefining masculinity through the lens of failure and faith. You’ll hear what it’s like to cry in the car before work, battle anxiety silently, and still choose to show up every day for your wife, your kids, and your calling. More than that, you’ll hear how God shows up with grace for every child born, every prayer whispered, and every husband willing to keep failing forward.If you’ve ever felt crushed under the weight of expectations or afraid to dream with empty pockets, this episode is for you. It’s a love letter to resilient wives, a tribute to cycle-breaking fathers, and a reminder to all men: your brokenness doesn’t disqualify you, it may just be the very place where God rebuilds you. Don’t miss this deeply reflective, personal, and hope-filled conversation.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.comFOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandTalks #failingforward #youngmarriage #BlackLoveStories #christianmarriage #HusbandsInTheMaking #fathersmatter #MenCryToo #MarriageInRealLife #realmenrealtalk #FaithfulFathers #GraceInTheMess #menandmentalhealth #VulnerableMen #cyclebreakers #BlackHusbandsMatter #marriagetestimony #godstiming #loveandstruggle #marriagepodcast #menwholead #DadLifeUnfiltered #FromBrokenToBuilt #GodsEconomy

Failed Engagement, Giving Up My Apartment: The Pressure To Marry Almost Broke Me | Justin Henry

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[S2] EPISODE 23: MARRIAGE IDOLATRYWhat happens when a man decides to rewrite his story of marriage? In this raw and heartfelt episode, Justin Henry sits across the table to unpack the emotional weight of growing up in a father-absent home, idolising marriage, and healing through it. He shares how he once tried to outrun the pain with career ambition and dating cycles, but ultimately discovered that God's grace and the hard work of real love are what make a husband. This is not just another love story, it's a story of redemption, restoration, and choosing to be present.Together, we talk about the pressures men face, from churches that rush young people into marriage, to mothers who ask, “So when are you getting married?”, to societal metrics that equate manhood with money. Justin reflects on what it's like to try, fail, and try again with wisdom. If you’ve ever made marriage an idol, rushed into love, or felt unprepared for the weight of being a husband, this one’s for you. We don't hold back in this one!Whether you’re married, divorced, dating, or single by design, this conversation will challenge you. Because at the core, this isn’t just about marriage, it’s about what kind of human you’re becoming. Hit play, and don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.comFOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandsWhoLead #MarriageRedefined #FaithAndMarriage #ModernHusbands #RealTalkMen #GodlyMarriage #BlackMenHealing #FatherWound #MenAndMentalHealth #MarriageJourney #RedefiningManhood #PurposefulMarriage #LoveAfterLoss #HealingThroughMarriage #PremaritalCounseling #MarriageMatters #ChristCenteredMarriage #MarriageIsMinistry #MenWithVision #ChristianHusbands #DoMarriageWell #ManhoodRestored #MarriageAndFaith #BetterHusbandsBetterHomes

Cheated On, Broken & Finding Real Love – How Friendship Opened Up My Heart Again | Tebogo Mphohle

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[S2] EPISODE 22: FRIEND-ZONE IN MARRIAGE "Marriage isn’t hard—what’s hard is pretending to love someone you don’t even like." In this episode, we unpack what it truly means for a husband to be friends with his wife. Our guest, Tebogo Mphohle opens up about how friendship in marriage isn't just a bonus, it’s a lifeline. He reflects on the moments where being friends with his wife quite literally saved their relationship. Without that foundation of mutual admiration, laughter, and understanding, many couples, especially men, drift emotionally while still sharing a home. The cost is intimacy being lost, and eventually, so is the marriage.What makes this episode special is how unashamedly it weaves faith, family legacy, and vulnerability. Tebogo speaks about growing up in a home where love was modeled not just privately but publicly, and how that shaped his vision of marriage. Yet even with a beautiful template, he found himself in a toxic relationship before meeting his wife. The contrast was jarring but redemptive. It was only when he was truly seen, truly safe, and truly befriended that his heart began to heal. What followed wasn’t just romance, it was renewal.If you’re a husband wondering why things feel dry, distant, or just… dull, maybe what’s missing isn’t a new date night strategy or more counselling sessions. Maybe what’s missing is friendship. Real, intentional, "you're my day-one" type of friendship. And as you’ll hear in this episode: you don’t have to fake it till you make it, you can choose to like her, again and again. Tune in, be challenged, and rediscover the power of being her friend.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.comFOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#marriagetalk #husbandlife #thathusbandpodcast #faithfulhusbands #marriageadvice #RealMarriageConvos #christianmarriage #HusbandWisdom #leadwithlove #marriagematters #FriendshipInMarriage #godlymarriages #StrongMarriageStrongFamily #modernmarriage #MarriedMenTalk #BeHerFriend #MarriageIsMinistry #BlackLoveMatters #SouthAfricanHusbands #MarriageGoalsDaily #husbandswholead #marriageunfiltered #christcenteredmarriage #MarriageRealTalk #HusbandsOfInstagram