That Husband Podcast

Your Marriage Can't Be A Graveyard For Your Wife's Dreams, Personality & Peace - Themba Tom Ntuli

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[S2] EPISODE 6: A PARTNER, NOT AN OWNER
What does it truly mean to be a husband? In this episode we sit down with Themba Tom Ntuli for an eye-opening conversation about the weight of marriage, the responsibility of leadership, and the art of drifting—how men often don't realize they’re slipping until they’ve fallen. We talk about how men leave relationships when they’re hurting, but women leave when they’ve healed. By the time she stops fighting, stops asking, stops including you in her future, she’s already gone. But what if you could recognize the signs before it’s too late?
We also dive into the role of accountability—who is leading you as you lead your family? From the pressures of success to the temptations that come when a man starts drifting, we break down why every husband needs a brotherhood, mentors, and a spiritual covering. Real men don’t walk alone. When life gets heavy, when temptation knocks, who do you call? In this episode, we explore practical ways to stay anchored, fight for your marriage, and be the husband your family needs.
Finally, we talk about serving our wives—not just in words, but in action. Too many women pour into their husbands’ dreams only to be forgotten when it’s their turn. A husband isn’t just a provider; he’s a supporter, a protector, a safe space. If marriage isn’t a graveyard for a man’s dreams, why should it be one for a woman’s? Let’s talk about what it really means to build, honor, and uplift our wives the way they do for us.
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How Would Your Marriage Change If You Saw Your Husband Differently? - Eleanor Nasasira

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[S2] EPISODE 5: THE "PERFECT HUSBAND" TRAP
In this episode, Blaque and Eleanor, take a moment to reflect on the often unseen pressures that husbands carry in their role as providers. Whether employed, underemployed, or unemployed, the weight of wanting to provide for their families can be suffocating. We discuss how wives can support their husbands during these difficult times—by acknowledging their emotional toll and offering encouragement, even when things feel uncertain. It's easy to overlook the quiet resilience husbands show when they are struggling to find work or battling pressures at their jobs. A simple acknowledgment can make all the difference in a husband’s journey to stay hopeful and strong.
This conversation also celebrates the dedication of husbands who show up. It’s about honouring the husbands who, even when they may not have it all together, show up for their families with hands that are willing to serve and hearts that remain determined. The episode also highlights those husbands who, even during seasons of illness or hardship, step up to care for their wives—taking on household chores, offering emotional support, and holding the fort down when their wives need rest. Their commitment is not just admirable, it’s worth celebrating.
As Blaque and Eleanor explore the intricacies of marriage, they dive deep into the importance of communication and prayer during seasons of disconnect. Wives, who may feel overwhelmed or distant, are encouraged to share their needs and feelings with their husbands. Change starts with vulnerability, and in these moments, prayer becomes a powerful tool for both spouses to navigate through tough times.
We close the episode with a reminder to join us at Beans and Bonds, a special monthly gathering for the community, where you can share your own reflections over coffee and connect with others who understand the challenges and joys of marriage. Don’t miss out—seats are limited, so be sure to book yours soon.
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Register for our first-ever live event - BEANS & BONDS Click the link for more info: https://bit.ly/4gxKTbb Join our That Husband Corner, mailing list, and community. Click the link for more info https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 5: THE "PERFECT HUSBAND" TRAP In this episode, Blaque and Eleanor, take a moment to reflect on the often unseen pressures that husbands carry in their role as providers. Whether employed, underemployed, or unemployed, the weight of wanting to provide for their families can be suffocating. We discuss how wives can support their husbands during these difficult times—by acknowledging their emotional toll and offering encouragement, even when things feel uncertain. It's easy to overlook the quiet resilience husbands show when they are struggling to find work or battling pressures at their jobs. A simple acknowledgment can make all the difference in a husband’s journey to stay hopeful and strong. This conversation also celebrates the dedication of husbands who show up. It’s about honouring the husbands who, even when they may not have it all together, show up for their families with hands that are willing to serve and hearts that remain determined. The episode also highlights those husbands who, even during seasons of illness or hardship, step up to care for their wives—taking on household chores, offering emotional support, and holding the fort down when their wives need rest. Their commitment is not just admirable, it’s worth celebrating. As Blaque and Eleanor explore the intricacies of marriage, they dive deep into the importance of communication and prayer during seasons of disconnect. Wives, who may feel overwhelmed or distant, are encouraged to share their needs and feelings with their husbands. Change starts with vulnerability, and in these moments, prayer becomes a powerful tool for both spouses to navigate through tough times. We close the episode with a reminder to join us at Beans and Bonds, a special monthly gathering for the community, where you can share your own reflections over coffee and connect with others who understand the challenges and joys of marriage. Don’t miss out—seats are limited, so be sure to book yours soon.
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My Divorce Woke Me Up: It Wasn’t Just My Husband’s Fault - Jabulile Mazibuko

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[S2] EPISODE 4: A SERIOUS WAKE-UP CALL
In this episode, Blaque sits with Jabulile of Men Speak With Jabulile who grew up believing that men were unreliable, untrustworthy, and ultimately dispensable in marriage. Raised by a feminist mother who lowered her expectations of men and was discipled by a divorced female pastor who unknowingly passed down unhealthy marital habits, she entered marriage with a mindset that slowly unravelled her relationship. But when divorce forced her to confront her own shortcomings, she realized a sobering truth—her expectations, beliefs, and behaviours had contributed just as much to the breakdown of her marriage as her ex-husband’s actions.
Now, after deep personal work and accountability, Jabu is on a mission to change the conversation. Instead of silencing men, she wants to empower them to speak up, lead with confidence, and take their rightful place in shaping stronger marriages and families. Through her journey, she’s discovered that men aren’t the problem—silencing them is. In this episode, she shares what she’s learned, the painful realisations she faced, and why she now believes that men hold the key to changing the future of marriages in our country.
If you’ve ever felt unheard in your marriage or struggled with the weight of unrealistic expectations, if you're a husband struggling to be heard, or a wife who wants to understand marriage from a new perspective, this episode is for you. Join us as we unpack the lessons Jabulile learned the hard way and explore how husbands can reclaim their voice, their role, and their impact in building thriving marriages.
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Why I Couldn’t Fully Commit to My Husband for 5 Years - Lilly Million

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[S2] EPISODE 3: FEELING STUCK, FEELING LOST?
In this raw and honest episode, Blaque and Lilly dive deep into the complexities of marriage and personal growth. They reflect on the emotional struggles that can lie beneath the surface of everyday issues, like domestic chores, and how these seemingly small tasks often carry larger emotional weight. Through humor and vulnerability, they discuss how unresolved fears—like the fear of losing control or not being enough—can manifest in ways that affect your commitment to your partner.
The episode also highlights the importance of nurturing both yourself and your marriage. Blaque and Lilly emphasize how prioritizing your own physical, mental, and spiritual well-being can transform your relationship. The concept of weekly check-ins provides a practical way to address tension before it builds up, creating a proactive approach to marriage.
The conversation goes deeper as they explore how subconscious patterns, shaped by our upbringing, can influence how we show up in our relationships. They discuss the delicate balance between “expecting the worst” and fully committing to your spouse, creating space for openness, honesty, and connection.
This episode will make you think about your own approach to marriage, especially when it comes to leadership and self-care. How do you care for yourself while leading your family? How do your habits and fears shape your commitment? Don’t miss this heartfelt conversation!.
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Tell Your Wife Everything And Save Your Marriage! - Charlie

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[S2] EPISODE 2: YOU CAN NEVER BE TOO HONEST
In this episode, we explore the highs and lows of navigating marriage and faith as Charlie opens up about his journey of growth and intentionality in every area of life. From the struggles to the breakthroughs, his honest reflections on marriage highlight the importance of being intentional, especially when it comes to creating peace and emotional security at home. It’s easy to overlook these foundational elements, but Charlie beautifully shows how the effort of nurturing a home that’s rooted in love and faith leads to a stronger bond and a deeper connection with his wife. His message about building a marriage centered around spiritual and emotional growth resonates deeply with any man seeking to lead in this way.
The conversation takes a powerful turn when Charlie speaks about stewarding his singleness before marriage. His reminder that there’s no rush to jump into relationships without first understanding the value of working on yourself is a critical lesson for younger men. Too often, society pressures us to test the waters of life before we’ve even learned to manage our own emotional and spiritual health. His message encourages men to lean into this season of singleness as a time for personal growth, so they can enter relationships and marriages with a healthier, more intentional mindset.
The episode also takes a vulnerable look at how faith plays an integral role in overcoming the challenges of marriage. Charlie shares how leaning on God and supporting each other in marriage has led to significant personal growth. He’s transparent about the hard moments and the work it takes to nurture a healthy marriage, encouraging men to seek support when needed and remain authentic in their relationships. This conversation is a powerful reminder that becoming the man God created you to be requires commitment, humility, and an openness to grow every single day.
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70% of Divorces Are Caused by THIS One Thing—But It’s Fixable

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[S2] EPISODE 1: REPAIRABLE MISTAKE
Have you ever looked at those couples who seem to navigate life in perfect sync and wondered, “What’s their secret?” The truth is, it’s not magic—it’s intentional living. For so many of us in South Africa, where cultural diversity and unique challenges shape our relationships, this practice can be the difference between thriving together and growing apart. In this video, we’re exploring what it takes to align your dreams, values, and goals with your partner, creating a shared vision that keeps your relationship grounded and purposeful.
Unmet expectations—or worse, uncommunicated ones—are often the invisible threads pulling couples apart. You might think it’s about money or intimacy, but those are often just symptoms of deeper frustrations. Maybe you feel stuck in a career that can’t support your dreams, or perhaps unspoken resentments are spilling into the bedroom. The drift doesn’t always start with a big fight; sometimes, it’s the slow erosion of connection as life pulls you in different directions. But here’s the good news: intentional living can be the anchor that keeps you together through every season.
In this episode, we’re giving you practical tools to realign as a couple. From identifying shared values to setting goals and scheduling regular check-ins, this is about more than just surviving—it’s about thriving together. We’ll share real insights and a take-home challenge to help you start aligning your vision today. Because when your marriage is rooted in purpose, it doesn’t just transform your relationship; it becomes a testimony of unity and hope for your family, your community, and yes, for South Africa. Let’s take that first intentional step—together.
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What’s The Point If Marriages Are Just Doomed To Fail?

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[S1] EPISODE 41: WHEN IT'S ALL SAID AND DONE
In this reflective episode, we take a moment to celebrate the growth and journey we've experienced throughout this season. Looking back, we’re filled with gratitude for the incredible guests who joined us, sharing their wisdom and insights on everything from communication and vulnerability to faith and resilience in marriage. The conversations were authentic, often messy, but always real—showing the ups and downs of marriage while inspiring our listeners to keep pressing forward. We’re honored to have had such meaningful discussions that illuminated the value of husbandhood and deepened our collective understanding of what it means to be a committed partner, father, and friend.
As we’ve navigated this season, our aim has always been to be as realistic as possible—highlighting both the beauty and the struggles of marriage. We’ve heard from you, our listeners, and your feedback has been nothing short of encouraging. Whether you're in the newlywed phase, dealing with the complexities of raising children, or experiencing the unique challenges of long-term marriage, our mission has been to offer truth, hope, and tangible tools to help you in every stage. It’s been a privilege to connect with so many of you and witness firsthand how this community has grown stronger. Your stories and comments have blessed us deeply, and we're more motivated than ever to continue this journey alongside you.
Looking ahead to 2025, we’re excited to expand our reach and impact even further. We're planning in-person meetups and sessions to connect face-to-face, providing a platform for deeper, more personal conversations. We’re also launching new merch, events, and even books—designed to continue empowering husbands in their growth journey. This is just the beginning, and we can't wait to see how this movement continues to grow. Thank you for being a part of That Husband Podcast and for making this community what it is today. Your support, comments, and feedback have been a constant source of inspiration for us, and we’re looking forward to all that’s to come! 
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Think You'll Be A Good Husband? (Don't Get Married Before Listening To This) - Tshwari

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[S1] EPISODE 40: PREMARITAL
In this episode we dive deep into the importance of preparation in marriage, exploring the spiritual and practical aspects of building a strong foundation. From navigating personal growth to understanding the value of premarital counselling, Tshwari shares his personal journey and the lessons he’s learned along the way. He highlights how self-awareness, patience, and embracing God's timing are crucial in shaping a relationship that honours both partners.
We also tackle some of the tough, often unspoken aspects of marriage prep, such as the impact of personal histories, emotional programming, and the vital role of vulnerability in communication. Tshwari emphasizes the importance of being honest about your past and how addressing these issues head-on can set you up for a more resilient and connected marriage.
Finally, we discuss the role of work, responsibility, and humility in preparing for marriage. We focus on how it's not just about chasing big dreams but about being faithful in the small, steady tasks that contribute to long-term stability and growth. This episode is packed with wisdom, humour, and real-life insights that will encourage and inspire both current and aspiring husbands.
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Keeping The Flame In My Marriage Alive While Raising Five Girls - Bevin Elliot

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S1] EPISODE 39: LIVE FOR THEM NOW, DON'T BE A HERO AT THE END!
In this heartfelt and humorous episode, we dive into the rich, complex world of parenting five daughters, ranging from a curious three-year-old to a blossoming sixteen-year-old. We explore the joys and challenges of raising girls with distinct personalities and navigating sibling dynamics, from the competition over matching outfits to the marshmallow-sweet moments of unconditional love. Hear how one father grapples with the unexpected blessing of twins during the pandemic, the possibility of having a son but realizing God knew exactly what he needed, and how each child has taught him something profound about life, patience, and faith.
Marriage takes center stage as we unpack how this couple nurtures their love amidst the demands of a large family. From frequent getaways and uncompromised date nights to facing financial hardships with resilience, their commitment to “moving toward each other” serves as a foundation for their home. They candidly share how a night nanny, gym sessions, and worship help them maintain their sanity, while navigating the ups and downs of being a big family. With authenticity, they recount how their love spills over into their parenting, showing their daughters the power of a united couple.
Bevin offers a treasure trove of insights for fathers and husbands alike, emphasizing the importance of health, self-care, and speaking life into your marriage. Whether it’s tough-love gym sessions with your spouse, making dietary changes before your fifties, or savoring every fleeting moment with your kids, this conversation is both a challenge and an inspiration. Tune in for stories of triumph, love, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from raising five little souls and cherishing the one who shares the journey with you.
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Unemployment, Autism, Pursuing A Dream & Where To Find Hope? - Ricwa

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[S1] EPISODE 38: FAITH, STRENGTH & HOPE...
In this episode of That Husband Podcast, Blaque Nubon sits down with SAFTA-winning director Ricardo 'Ricwa' Klaasen for a raw and reflective conversation about faith, family, and the transformative power of commitment. Ricwa takes us on a journey through his 13 years of marriage, sharing how he and his wife began their life together in a Wendy house, raising two children and later on having to navigate the unique challenges of parenting a son with autism. Through financial setbacks and career sacrifices, his wife’s steadfast support and their shared faith in Jesus Christ became the pillars that held their family together.
Ricwa opens up about the struggles many men face but often keep hidden—fighting to provide, wrestling with self-doubt, and learning to surrender the weight of leadership to God. He reflects on the enduring legacy of his parents’ 40-year marriage and the lessons it taught him about perseverance and love. He also speaks to the beauty of intentionality in relationships, recounting the influence of friends who model what it means to love with purpose. With candor and gratitude, Ricwa unpacks how celebrating the small wins, keeping Christ at the center, and embracing faith over fear have shaped his identity as a husband and father.
This episode is an emotional and inspiring exploration of what it means to lead a family with grace and courage. Ricwa’s story is a powerful reminder that even in life’s messiest and most uncertain seasons, God’s faithfulness never falters. For husbands seeking to grow, reconnect, or simply feel seen, this conversation offers a space to reflect, be challenged, and find hope.