That Husband Podcast

The Truth About Male Vulnerability No One Wants to Hear | Blaque Nubon

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources[S2] EPISODE 38: VULNERABILITY vs TRANSPARENCYIn this episode, we tackle one of the most misunderstood concepts in today’s culture: vulnerability. Men are constantly told that “real strength is being vulnerable,” but what happens when that vulnerability is offered in unsafe places? Instead of healing, it often leaves men more wounded, more guarded, and more hesitant to trust. Together, we wrestle with the reality that vulnerability without safety isn’t courage, it’s exposure, and we unpack why vulnerability is far too sacred to be cheapened in the wrong hands.
As husbands, we carry the responsibility of leading with courage, and that includes the courage to open up in the one place where it truly belongs: within the covenant of marriage. Vulnerability with your wife creates intimacy, trust, and unity, while withholding it builds invisible walls that eventually turn spouses into strangers. We share how Christ’s example of exposing His wounds for the sake of healing becomes a model for us as husbands, and why going first in this area sets the tone for love and connection in marriage.This conversation isn’t just about theory, it’s about reclaiming a healthier, God-designed way of being men. For single men, it’s a call to practice transparency with brothers and mentors while wisely guarding their hearts. For married men, it’s an invitation to stop hiding and start building deeper intimacy with their wives through vulnerability. This episode is raw, real, and personal, a reminder that vulnerability isn’t weakness, but the most courageous gift a husband can give.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.comFOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#HusbandPodcast #marriagematters #godlymarriage #menoffaith #marriagecovenant #husbandsandwives #christianmen #marriagetalk #faithfulhusbands #marriagewisdom #VulnerabilityInMarriage #marriagegodsway #CourageousHusbands #marriageandfaith #HeadshipAndLove #marriagereflections #HusbandLeadership #ChristAndTheChurch #marriagejourney #biblicalmarriage #marriagegrowth #strongertogether #HusbandsForHusbands #FaithFilledMarriage #MarriageIntimacy

The Husband I Say Am VS The Husband She Actually Lives With | Lilly Million + Blaque Nubon

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S2] EPISODE 36: PULL BACK THE CURTAINS
In this special Heritage Day edition, the conversation turns inward. For the first time in a while, we are joined by my wife, Lilly not just as a guest, but as a partner who lives the very realities this podcast speaks about. Together, we open up about the weight and beauty of marriage: the fights that once felt familiar, the lessons learned through patience, and the slow but powerful healing that comes when both husband and wife choose not to give up.This episode isn’t polished perfection, it’s raw, honest, and sometimes even a little awkward. We reflect on how faith, vulnerability, and even disagreements have shaped our marriage. There’s laughter, confession, and a lot of learning, but at the heart of it all is a desire to do better, not just talk better. As we remind each other, small improvements, even 2% shifts, can make a world of difference in how a husband shows up for his wife, and how a wife nurtures her husband with her words.Whether you’re a husband striving to grow, a wife longing to better understand your man, or a couple navigating the everyday weight of love, this conversation will resonate. It’s a reminder that marriage is not about arriving at perfection but about failing forward together, with grace, curiosity, and patience. Pull up a chair, you’re not just listening to a podcast, you’re sitting with family.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.comFOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/

Divorce Often Starts With An Unready Husband | Themba Tom Ntuli, DJ Magbe Magabaza, Jabu Zwane

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 35: HUSBAND PREPARATIONMarriage has a way of waking us up to realities we never imagined. Many of us stepped into it unprepared, thinking love and good intentions would be enough, only to collide with the weightiness of responsibility, our hidden wounds, and the expectations we never knew we carried. In this episode, four husbands sit down to have the kind of raw, unfiltered conversation every man needs: about the struggles we didn’t anticipate, the fears we never admitted, and the slow realisation that being a husband requires more than just showing up.We talk about the baggage we brought into marriage, fatherlessness, trauma, detachment, and the unspoken pressure to “just figure it out.” We open up about the moments that humbled us: when conflict revealed our lack of capacity, when our wives’ strength challenged our fragile egos, and when our unresolved past showed up in our homes. These are not polished stories; they are scars carried into manhood that still ache. But in the telling, there is healing.This is a podcast by husbands, for husbands. Not to give you a five-step formula, but to remind you that you are not alone in your confusion, your failures, or your longing to grow. We are men in process, imperfect, often overwhelmed, but committed to failing forward together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re the only one struggling, this conversation is for you. Pull up a chair, listen in, and let’s walk this journey of husbandhood side by side.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.comFOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#HusbandPodcast #marriagematters #husbandlife #realmenrealtalk #marriagepodcast #christianmarriage #marriagejourney #MenInMarriage #marriagestruggles #marriagehealing #faithfulhusbands #marriagegrowth #marriagereality #mensupportingmen #MarriageReflections #marriageconversations #menoffaith #MarriageAndFaith #MarriageCommunity #marriagechallenges #marriagehelp #Husbandhood #marriagesupport #marriagewisdom #failingforward

What Lust Is Doing To You As A Husband: The Conversation No One Is having | Jabu Zwane

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[S2] EPISODE 34: THE MAN IN THE MIRRIOR
In this episode, we dive deep into one of the greatest battles men face: lust. But not in the way you might think. We go beyond the surface to uncover the hidden longings, unmet desires, and unresolved wounds that quietly shape how we live, love, and lead in our marriages. These aren’t just struggles with the flesh, they are echoes of deeper cravings for acceptance, power, validation, and freedom. And left unchecked, they can quietly sabotage the very relationships we long to protect.
We get raw and real about the masks men wear, the silent wars we fight in our private thoughts, and the ways we often create illusions to escape unmet needs. Whether it’s the lust for validation that drives us to please people, the lust for power that makes us reckless with money, or the lust for freedom that tempts us to rebel against commitment, these inner battles demand courage, self-awareness, and honesty. This is not just about naming the problem but about learning to recognise where it comes from and how it shows up in our everyday choices as husbands.
This conversation is not for perfect men, it’s for men like us who are wrestling, stumbling, and still choosing to fight for healthier marriages. If you’ve ever felt the weight of secret battles you couldn’t put into words, this episode will give you language, perspective, and hope. It’s a call to curiosity instead of judgment, to courage instead of denial, and to building marriages that are conscious, patient, and rooted in love.
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What Happens When a Man Loves Right, With No Fear & No Apologies | Una Rams

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[S2] EPISODE 33: COMMITMENT IS A DAILY CHOICE Marriage is more than a title, it’s a daily decision to show up, to love, and to choose each other through the highs and lows. In this episode of That Husband Podcast, we sit down with Una Rams, not just as the artist you know, but as a husband and father who opens up about the weight and wonder of love, responsibility, and choosing family. His story is not about perfection, but about the courage it takes to embrace vulnerability, to redefine strength, and to pursue love that is intentional and enduring.Together, we talk about the conscious decision to step into fatherhood, the raw reality of what safety looks like for men in marriage, and the power of walking alongside, not ahead or behind, your partner. From the magic and chaos of childbirth to the sacred responsibility of raising children, Una shares moments that shaped his journey and challenged him to love without the baggage of the past. This isn’t theory, it’s the real, unpolished beauty of marriage lived out in daily choices.What emerges is a picture of love that isn’t built on fairy tales, but on respect, faith, and resilience. This episode will challenge husbands to reimagine what it means to protect, to partner, and to grow together. It’s a conversation for every man who knows marriage isn’t about arriving perfect, but about failing forward, learning daily, and holding on to the hope that when we choose love, fully and freely, we choose life. #RealMenLove #HusbandPodcast #marriagetalks #marriagematters #husbandgoals #lovewithoutfear #marriagewisdom #LoveLikeAMan #LoveHerRight #marriagegodsway #marriagejourney #intentionallove #faithfullove #husbandswholead #husbandlife #MarriageCourage #strongmarriage #LoveBoldly #marriagestrength #HusbandWisdom

I Got Married Without My Family’s Blessing: The Hard Truth I Learned at 21 | Kutlwano Ditsele

Marriage is never just about two people, it’s also about the families and histories that stand behind them. But what happens when those families refuse to stand with you? In this episode we dive into the raw and often painful reality of marrying without your family’s blessing. From the quiet heartbreak of parents who withhold support, to the courage it takes to lead your own household when the crowd is against you, this conversation is both transparent and necessary.As husbands, we know the weight of stepping into marriage: the decision to expose our defects, the challenge of accountability, and the risk of walking a road that isn’t always cheered on. Kutlwano Ditsele opens up about how he faced the lonely, frightening possibility of starting a marriage without his father’s approval, and the deep conviction that carried him forward anyway. It’s a story of faith, resilience, and the costly beauty of choosing your wife, even when it means losing other affirmations.This isn’t just theory, it’s the lived reality for many men. And in telling this story, we’re reminded that marriage is a sacred covenant, not a popularity contest. Family blessing is valuable, but it is not the foundation, God’s call and your commitment are. So if you’ve ever wrestled with the tension between honouring your parents and leading your new family, this episode will help you reflect, find courage, and know you’re not alone.#thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #marriagematters #husbandlife #MarriageWithoutBlessing #FamilyApproval #godlymarriage #marriagejourney #faithandmarriage #husbandtalks #marriagestruggles #marriagepodcast #LoveAndFaith #marriagewisdom #BuildingMarriage #marriagegodsway #MarriageDecisions #marriagecounsellor #marriageandfamily #marriagesupport #marriagestories #MarriageCommunity #MarriageAccountability #MarriageWithPurpose #marriageinchrist

When Serving The Church Almost Destroyed My Marriage | Allan.P

Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources [S2] EPISODE 31: GOD'S WORK vs GOD'S DAUGHTERMarriage isn’t just about love stories and Instagram moments, it’s about the daily choice to show up, sacrifice, and sometimes die to self for the sake of the one you vowed to cherish. In this episode, we sit down with Allan.P to talk about what husbandhood really looks like when the butterflies fade, the fights get real, and life throws both joy and hardship our way. His story reminds us that being a husband isn’t about perfection, it’s about persistence, humility, and faithfulness when it’s easier to walk away.From the early years of marriage to raising kids and navigating the pressures of work, dreams, and ministry, Allan.P opens up about the hidden battles husbands face, the pride, the fatigue, the temptation to drift, and the weight of responsibility. Yet woven through his story is a testimony of grace: a wife who fuels his ambition, a faith that reshapes his perspective, and a vision of marriage that sees “death to self” not as loss but as the soil where love and legacy grow.This conversation isn’t just for men who think they’ve figured it out, it’s for husbands still stumbling forward, husbands carrying unseen frustrations, and husbands who need to be reminded that they’re not alone. If you’ve ever wrestled with ego, with balance, with choosing your wife over your comfort, then this episode will speak to you. Because at the end of the day, being a husband is less about having it all together, and more about being willing to learn, to sacrifice, and to keep choosing love, day after day.#thathusbandpodcast #HusbandTalks #marriagematters #husbandlife #FaithfulHusbands #marriagegodsway #marriagejourney #HusbandAndWife #christianhusbands #realmarriage #marriagegrowth #marriagepodcast #HusbandsUnite #Husbandhood #marriagestruggles #marriagewisdom #HusbandsSupportHusbands #loveandmarriagehuntsville #HusbandEncouragement #MarriageSacrifice #healthymarriage #marriageinchrist #MarriageLegacy #dietoself #MarriageFaith

How I Went From Leading Bible Study to Getting A Girl Pregnant | Ofentse Moerane

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 30: MAKING THINGS RIGHT"Nine years ago, a single phone call during Bible Study changed everything. My then-girlfriend’s trembling voice told me she was pregnant. In that moment, the future we had imagined shifted completely. What followed wasn’t just a test of faith, it was a test of love, responsibility, and resilience. Her family cut ties. My reputation in the church felt shattered. And yet, in the middle of the shock and shame, I knew one thing: I couldn’t run. I had to stay."This episode isn’t about a perfect love story. It’s about two people who stumbled hard and then chose to stand together anyway. We talk about navigating estrangement, the weight of cultural expectations, the sting of disappointing those who believed in us, and the slow, grace-filled process of rebuilding trust, with our families, our faith community, and ourselves. Along the way, we unpack how fatherhood began not in the maternity ward, but in a decision to take responsibility, even when it was costly.For husbands, future husbands, and any man who’s ever faced the gap between who he wanted to be and what actually happened, this conversation is for you. It’s about how God’s grace can take a mess and turn it into a marriage, a family, and a testimony. It’s about what we’ve learned over nine years of parenting, persevering, and leaning on each other when winter came. And it’s a reminder that even the most unexpected beginnings can lead to stories worth telling.#thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #HusbandsForHusbands #fatherhoodjourney #youngparents #marriageandfaith #RealMarriageStories #biblicalmanhood #christianhusbands #marriagepodcast #husbandlife #christianfatherhood #marriagetestimony #faithinmarriage #godlyhusband #marriagestruggles #christianpodcast #marriagerestoration #loveandresponsibility #GraceInMarriage #marriagegodsway #faithandfamily #HusbandAndWife #christianrelationships #FromMessToMarriage

What’s The Point Of Winning At Work While You're Destroying Your Home? | Ezekiel Nkotsoe

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 29: ALTAR OF AMBITIONIn this episode, we sit down with Ezekiel Nkotsoe, seven months into marriage and already confronted with the question most men never dare to ask: "Am I idolizing success at the expense of my wife?" Ezekiel shares how his obsession with performance, numbers, and being “the best” collided head-on with the quiet but holy demands of marriage. What began as a journey to build wealth and legacy was slowly revealed as a quest for validation, rooted in childhood trauma and masked as ambition.As husbands, we often say we’re grinding “for the family,” but how many Christmases can you miss before you’ve actually started grinding away from them? Ezekiel opens up about the difficult conversations with his wife, his coach, and God, uncovering the subtle lies we believe about ambition, provision, and masculinity. He reminds us that spiritual, emotional, and physical presence matters more than the car you pull into the driveway. And sometimes, the most godly ambition is learning to be content, to be present, and to serve the family God has placed in front of you.This episode is not just for the high performers or sales guys in Jozi, it’s for every husband trying to reconcile his grind with his calling. Whether you’re newly married, seasoned, or still considering what kind of man you want to be, this conversation is a sacred space for honest reflection. Because at the end of the day, no amount of ambition can hold your hand when you're old, only the woman you chose to love well can do that.#thathusbandpodcast #ChristianHusbands #MarriageMatters #godlymarriage #husbandswholead #FaithAndAmbition #MarriageOverMoney #contentmentinchrist #menofgod #christianmanhood #MarriageIsWork #BlackLoveMatters #generationalwealth #AmbitionWithPurpose #FaithfulNotFamous #HusbandsSupportingHusbands #ModernMarriageTalks #HustleAndHoliness #EmotionalProvision #GodlyMasculinity #KingdomMen #christcenteredmarriage #marriagepodcast #RealTalkForHusbands #marriageandfaith

Divorce, Loss, Hitting Rock Bottom - My Struggle To Provide For My Family | Caskey Ndaba

 Visit www.thathusband.com for merch, event tickets and other resources[S2] EPISODE 28: DON'T LEAVE A MESS BEHINDWhat happens when the baton is passed to us and we’re not ready to carry it? In this conversation with the incredibly grounded and eloquent Caskey Ndaba, we talk about what it means to become the uncles, the fathers, the leaders we once looked up to. From drafting a will to defining a family vision, we wrestle with the reality of death, not in fear, but in wisdom. Caskey reminds us that masculinity is less about the muscle and more about the mind, and that real manhood means planning, preparing, and protecting.Mr. Ndaba opens up about walking from Diepsloot to Centurion to restart his life after losing everything, including his home and career. He shares how his divorce and later, the tragic loss of his children’s mother, shaped his journey as a father and a husband. These are not just stories, they are scars with purpose. His vulnerability, wrapped in clarity and determination, reminds us that being a husband is not about perfection but about showing up, again and again, even when it hurts.We don’t just talk policies and funeral plans, we go deeper into the fears, insecurities, and silence that often keep men from leading well. Whether you're a newlywed, a father of three, or a man trying to fix the brokenness you inherited, this episode offers both a mirror and a map. Because in the end, being a husband isn’t just about loving your family, it’s about leaving them ready when you’re no longer here. Let’s talk legacy, leadership, and love—because silence is no longer an option.#thathusbandpodcast #failingforward #legacybuilding #husbandswholead #fatherhoodmatters #BlackMenLead #purposedrivenmen #masculinityredefined #ManhoodJourney #menoffaith #VisionForFamily #DeathPreparedness #WillAndTestament #lifeinsurancematters #financialfitness #ModernHusband #healingfromloss #breakinggenerationalcycles #BePresentDad #ManUpMovement #authenticmanhood #griefandgrace #RealMenPlan #LeadershipInMarriage #intentionalliving