That Husband Podcast

You've Won Every Argument But Have You Won Your Wife's Heart? - VTJ Masakona

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EPISODE 31: ARE YOU SEEING THE BIGGER PICTURE IN EVERY ARGUMENT?
In this episode, we explore the heart of conflict resolution in marriage, focusing on how couples can navigate differences with intentionality and grace. Conflict is inevitable, but resolving it requires maturity, accountability, and understanding each other's unique approaches—whether one processes slowly or prefers to address issues immediately. We also discuss the influence of our upbringing, the power of forgiveness, and how to move forward with wisdom.
VTJ Masakona of Calvary Christian Church dives with us deep into tough topics like intimacy and loss, emphasizing that sex is about giving, not transactions, and that grace should be extended even when it’s hard. He highlights the importance of nurturing affection, not giving room for division, and the value of sacrificing for each other in ways that lead to true oneness.
Finally, we reflect on Jesus' example of sacrifice and challenge viewers to fight for their marriages. Ask yourself a crucial question, If you had to redo your marriage from scratch, with all that you and your spouse know, would your spouse choose you again? It’s a call to build stronger marriages where conflict deepens intimacy and both partners grow together.

What Husbands Risk When They Love Without Boundaries - Jabu Zwane

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EPISODE 30: AN OPEN BOOK
In today’s episode, we are joined by Jabu Zwane and we dive deep into the complex emotions and responsibilities husbands face in marriage. From the power wives hold in shaping the spiritual, emotional, and intellectual strength of their husbands, to the pain of losing a spouse and learning to love again—this conversation uncovers the profound journey men embark on when they commit to marriage.
We explore the often-untold struggles men encounter: the fear of openly loving their wives, the deep need for validation, and the weight of carrying love without direction. Why are so many men afraid to express their love publicly, and what happens when that love feels misdirected or purposeless? We tackle the hard truth about accountability in relationships, how to handle conflict without hijacking moments of vulnerability, and why forgiveness is essential for lasting connection.
Through candid reflections and powerful insights, this episode challenges husbands to reflect on their own emotional transparency, encouraging them to love their wives boldly, communicate honestly, and embrace their past without fear. Whether you're navigating grief, struggling with intimacy, or simply learning how selfish you are in marriage—this episode offers wisdom and encouragement for husbands striving to lead their marriages with love, strength, and grace.
 

How Long Hours & Big Paychecks Impact a Husband's Health - Dr. Khuliso Ramashia

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[S1] EPISODE 29: HUSTLE CULTURE
It’s no secret that men face a lot of pressure, particularly the challenges of stress and fatigue. In this episode, we explore the importance of using creativity to elevate stress, peer mentorship, and the critical need for black men to take their health seriously—whether that means supplements, better habits, or simply being part of a community.
As black men in South Africa, the burden of disease and the alarming rise of substance abuse have reached critical levels, especially among those who feel isolated and without community support. We need to prioritize our health, not only physically but mentally, and take serious steps to address how we cope. As men, it's easy to bury ourselves in work, justifying long hours and the grind by the paycheque, but true accountability lies in managing our time effectively, especially as husbands and fathers.
It’s about understanding that our mental health is like a pressure cooker, and if we don’t find creative outlets or mentors to help, we risk letting that pressure boil over.
As a full-time doctor, husband, father of two sons, and content creator, Dr Khuliso Ramashia knows firsthand the demands that come with trying to balance everything. It's not just about being busy; it's about being intentional with your time. The truth is, it’s easier to work than to be present at home, but being a provider doesn't make you a great husband.
The weight of responsibility can trick us into thinking we’re doing enough, but if our families are suffering, what are we really achieving? Dr Ramashia’s goal is to help bridge the gap in medical information access and inspire men to step up in their roles, not only in their careers but in their homes and communities. Raising two sons who have a diverse heritage in South Africa means he is constantly navigating how to help them embrace their identity in a complex society. He wants to give them the tools to grow as proud brown boys, grounded in their rich background. His passion for giving his all to everything he does drives him, hence he refuses to be celebrated as a great doctor who couldn't take care of his own family. 
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When The Cameras Stopped Rolling, Marriage Got Real - Thabang Mvuyane

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 [S1] EPISODE 28: PUBLIC LOVE, PRIVATE BATTLES
In this episode, Thabang "Banger" Mvuyane shares his deeply personal journey from Married at First Sight, a reality show that dramatically reshaped his life. Frustrated by unsuccessful dating experiences, he joined the show in search of something genuine, but what unfolded went far beyond his expectations.
The cameras captured his early arrogance, which marriage quickly humbled, forcing him to re-evaluate his understanding of love and commitment with a woman he had just met. The challenges of getting to know each other while constantly being filmed were just the beginning. The couple faced personal battles as well, navigating the awkwardness of on-camera arguments and the harsh reality of online trolls. Beyond the glitz of reality TV, they were left to manage not only their relationship but the weight of public scrutiny, as what was shown on screen didn’t fully capture the complicated reality they lived off-camera.
In this episode, he reflects on the profound lessons learned throughout the experience, including his public missteps, such as breaking up with his wife on national television. He opens up about the emotional baggage both he and his wife brought into the marriage, the discovery of her communication with an ex, and the maturity the marriage brought him. This story sheds light on the hard truths of growing within a marriage witnessed by millions and the deep personal transformation that followed.

How I Love My Wife & Care For My 4 Kids While I'm Depressed - Kgabo Legora

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We are privileged to be joined by Kgabo Legora, who takes us into the world of a husband and father who bravely faces the realities of depression.
After experiencing a significant family event that triggered his mental health struggles, he discovered that his family lacked the language to process what was happening. Despite trying therapy in his teens and having a terrible experience, meeting Jesus at 18 became a pivotal moment that reshaped his life. This episode explores how his faith, coupled with the support of his close-knit community, has played a vital role in his journey to not just survive, but thrive as a husband, father, and business owner.
We’ll hear about the challenges he’s faced, from the toll depression and anti-depressants took on his body image to the burnout cycles and multiple attempts to overcome his lowest points. Through his lens as a freelance photographer, we explore how creativity has become a healing outlet, allowing him to express and fight against the darkness. In a marriage spanning a decade, he’s learned that to be healthy for his wife and kids, he needs consistency in life, not just in his relationship.
We hope you will walk away inspired by his determination to live a full life. He dreams of being emptied out by the time he leaves this earth, giving all he can, not only to his family but also to the world. Despite his unconventional story and ongoing battles, this episode celebrates the grace and resilience that have carried him through—and the profound hope he holds for his four children.

Confronting My Past to Build The Future of My Marriage - Koketso Molaolwe

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In this episode, we delve into the complex journey of Koketso Molaolwe the leader behind Mmuso Worship and Mmuso Church, who transitioned from being a club DJ and A-type leader to a husband and pastor.
Raised in a turbulent environment where his father was never married to his mother, the scars of rejection and the aftermath of an affair shaped his early life. He shares how these experiences led him to stop relying on people at some point in his life, and how he eventually found himself grappling with the realisation that he might wake up being more of a narcissist than he ever wanted to admit.
As a husband, he had to confront the harsh reality that his wife, who takes no nonsense, wasn’t going to be impressed by his façade. He feared waking up one day with the realization that she had married a man more in love with his image than with her. The episode explores his struggle to balance the demands of ministry and marriage, highlighting moments where his family needed him to be a better husband than a better pastor.
He shares candidly about the challenges of moving in with his in-laws and the tough decision to prioritize his family over ministry. Through it all, he reflects on the lesson that while our wives don’t need to be overly excited, they do need to feel valued and present. This episode is a raw and honest look at the dangers of not knowing one's own weaknesses, and the importance of striving for health and authenticity in all areas of life.

There's more freedom in dating than getting married - M.J & Lethu

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[S1] EPISODE 25: IS THERE A FUTURE FOR HUSBANDHOOD
In this episode, we explore why more and more young men are becoming skeptical about marriage. We dive into the real-life reasons behind this shift, from the pressures of today’s economy to changing relationship dynamics that have made marriage feel less appealing.
Through personal stories, the two young men, Michael-John and Lethu we sit with help us get to the heart of why marriage isn’t what it used to be for many of their peers. We also touch on the role of sex and the impact of "hook-up" culture on young men's views toward marriage. With casual encounters becoming more normalized, many men are finding it easier to fulfill their physical needs without the commitment that marriage traditionally entails. This shift in how sex is approached has left some men questioning whether marriage is necessary or even desirable, given the immediate gratification that the hook-up culture offers.
Additionally, we explore how online dating has reshaped the landscape of relationships, making it both easier to meet people and harder to settle down. With endless options just a swipe away, many young men feel less urgency to commit to one person for life.
This constant access to potential partners has contributed to a mindset where marriage feels less like a necessity and more like just one of many options in a sea of possibilities.

Transforming Marriage, Family & Work Through Love & Honesty - Justice Mukheli

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EPISODE 24: GENTLE MASCULINITY
In today’s episode, Justice Mukheli reflects on his transformative journey from a rough upbringing to becoming a man who values authenticity and emotional vulnerability. Growing up in a Soweto he learned the importance of avoiding bad financial decisions while staying true to his roots and future goals. Finding his wife was a turning point, teaching him the value of showing up as his true self, without relying on material possessions or role-playing to fit into a mold.
Unlike many relationships the COVID-19 pandemic deepened his bond with his partner, leading to them being married. He shares how a positive outlook can shape a marriage unexpectedly, helping him transition from a hardcore kasi guy to embracing his gentle side.
There’s also so much emphasis on expressing love and honesty as acts of courage that define true masculinity in this episode. Lastly, he helps us reframe what we think of generational wealth, that it isn’t just about money but the legacy of love, honesty, and authenticity left behind.
Through his story, we explore how these values have strengthened his marriage and redefined what it means to be a man today.

I Can't Be A Hero In The Church But A Villain At Home - Israel Phiri

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S1] EPISODE 23: THE HUSBAND IS A DYING BREED
For a long time, pastors have been these untouchable figures, with their marriages only visible from the church stage. Rarely, if ever, did we get to see them in everyday life with their wives and children. This lack of access made it hard for many of us to connect with their advice, leading us to follow anyone willing to expose their lifestyle—often, unfortunately, one that wasn't worth emulating.
That’s why we need to give a huge shout-out to Israel Phiri for being open about his first ministry—his role as a husband. He’s got some incredible insights on relationships and, with a strong online presence, he’s inspiring many husbands to step up and take their roles seriously.
You don't want to miss this one! It's full of deep reflections, laughter, and honest takes. 

Are you willing to change to be a better husband? - Muzi Mthabela

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Every generation has a figure who transcends culture, politics, sports, or religion to serve as a father figure and a symbolic "husband of the nation." Muzi Mthabela appears to be one of those influential voices in our time. His impact on men is profound, challenging apathy and inspiring a higher vision of masculinity.
Married for 17 years, his journey is both eye-opening and deeply human. His story serves as a beacon of hope for those striving to improve their own marriages, filling a void for many husbands who lacked role models growing up.
What sets his approach apart is his unique balance: he offers genuine care while pushing you to rise to your potential, urging you to step up, show up, and man up. This episode is packed with insights that will inspire and help you grow.
Enjoy and be transformed!