That Husband Podcast

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 29: WORK OVER YOUR FAMILY?
This episode started as a quick update to let you know why That Husband Podcast is taking a short break, but it became a much deeper conversation about the kind of husband I hope to be. As my wife and I navigate life with newborn twins, prepare to launch a church, and carry the weight of family, ministry, and business, I was reminded that no public platform is worth sacrificing the people waiting for you at home. Sometimes the strongest decision a man can make is to slow down long enough to protect what matters most.
A moment from the Winnie Mandela documentary challenged me in a way I wasn’t expecting. It made me think about legacy, authenticity, and the uncomfortable question every husband should wrestle with: if my wife were asked to describe who I really am, would her words reflect the man you see on this podcast?
My hope is that every husband leaves this episode challenged to pursue a marriage anchored by conviction instead of convenience, and reminded that the most important life you’ll ever build is the one your family experiences when no one else is watching.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 28: THE HARD WORK OF MARRIAGE
What begins as a light-hearted discussion about what we jokingly call "female crazy" quickly becomes something far deeper. Together, we unpack the moments in marriage when emotions seem to outrun logic, when miscommunication leaves both husband and wife feeling misunderstood, and when the person you love most somehow becomes the person who absorbs your deepest frustrations. This is not a conversation about men versus women. It is about learning to understand one another before we judge one another.My wife courageously reflects on what it feels like to spiral emotionally, while I share what it feels like to be on the receiving end of that spiral. Together we explore insecurity, purpose, exhaustion, parenthood, anxiety, communication, and the hidden stories we bring into marriage. We realised that so many of our arguments were never really about the argument itself. They were invitations to ask a deeper question: What is actually happening in your heart right now? Sometimes the greatest breakthrough in marriage comes when we stop trying to win the moment and start trying to understand the person.
 
Healthy marriages are not built by two people who never lose their way, they are built by two people who keep choosing to find each other again. There are moments where we will misunderstand each other, wound each other, and fail each other. But there is also grace to slow down, to listen, to apologise, and to reconnect. My hope is that every husband watching feels less alone, every wife feels more understood, and every couple walks away believing that the goal of marriage is not to prove who is right, but to become the kind of people who love each other well, even on our worst days.Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/
 
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 27: HAS LOVE STOPPED FEELING EASY?This episode was born out of the questions we could not finish answering at one of our live Beans and Bonds gatherings, but what unfolded became something much bigger than marriage advice. We wrestle with the hidden parts of ourselves that quietly follow us into our relationships, the survival strategies we developed as boys, the insecurities we keep buried, the secret expectations we never communicate and the longing for peace that we struggle to define. If marriage has ever felt harder than you imagined, perhaps it is because marriage is not simply asking you to love another person, it is asking you to finally meet yourself. One of the convictions that has shaped me more than almost anything else is this. Marriage does not create our brokenness, it reveals it. Every difficult conversation, every misunderstanding, every moment of conflict exposes something deeper that was already there. We talk honestly about why communication is so difficult, why vulnerability feels terrifying, why many husbands long for peace without knowing what peace really is, and why the goal of marriage is not simply happiness but transformation. I share why I believe marriage is God's invitation to become more fully human, not by hiding our weaknesses but by allowing them to be seen, carried, and healed within the safety of covenant love. More than anything, this episode reminded me that the healthiest marriages are not built by two people trying to protect themselves, instead, they are built by two people learning to give themselves away. We explore why love cannot exist in isolation, why selfishness slowly suffocates intimacy, and why becoming a better husband is less about finding yourself and more about learning to die to yourself every single day. If you have ever wondered why marriage feels like it is exposing every part of you, maybe that is exactly what it is supposed to do. Because the greatest gift marriage gives us is not comfort, it is the opportunity to become the kind of man who knows how to love well. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #FaithAndMarriage #CommunicationInMarriage #VulnerabilityInMarriage #MenWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #BlackMenHeal #EmotionalHealth #MarriageHealing #HealingForMen #HusbandsWhoHeal #MarriageTransformation #TheMeIBringIntoMarriage #MarriageJourney #KingdomMarriage #BecomingABetterMan #MarriageWisdom #FailingForward #LoveAndSacrifice #KnowBetterDoBetter

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[S3] EPISODE 26: WHAT HE WISHES HIS WIFE UNDERSTOOD
What does it actually look like for a husband to feel celebrated? So much of marriage rightly teaches men to love sacrificially, to provide, to protect, and to give. But somewhere along the way, many husbands quietly begin to believe that being seen, appreciated, and emotionally known is something they should never ask for. In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack the silent loneliness many men carry, why affirmation matters more than most husbands are willing to admit, and how learning to celebrate one another can transform not only our marriages but our friendships, our faith, and the way we see ourselves.
What makes this conversation so powerful is that it refuses to stay on the surface. We talk about intimacy, rejection, masculinity, vulnerability, friendship, affection between men, and the ways our childhoods continue to shape our marriages. We wrestle with why so many men struggle to say, "I love you," why compliments can feel uncomfortable, why we compete instead of celebrate, and why so many of the behaviours we try to fix are often symptoms of a much deeper longing to be loved. This is not a conversation about demanding more from our wives. It is a conversation about becoming healthier men who know how to receive love, give love, and create cultures where other men can flourish.
More than anything, this episode reminded me that every man is searching for something deeper than success, achievement, or applause. He is searching to be known. To be valued. To be loved without having to earn it. Whether you are newly married, have been married for decades, or are simply trying to become a better man, this conversation is an invitation to stop pretending that strength means silence. Because the strongest husbands are not the ones who never need encouragement. They are the ones who have learned that love is expressed not only through sacrifice, but also through honest words, genuine celebration, and the courage to remind another man, "I see you, and you matter."
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[S3] EPISODE 25: WHEN HIS SILENCE BECOMES A LOUD WOUND
 
In recognition of Men's Mental Health Month, we sit down and wrestle with a simple but haunting question: What were the things we could not say as boys? Long before we became husbands, fathers, leaders, and providers, we were boys trying to make sense of rejection, loneliness, fear, disappointment, insecurity, and pain. Many of us learned early that vulnerability was weakness, that tears were unacceptable, and that silence was safer than honesty. The problem is that the things we never learned to say as boys often become the struggles we carry as men.
n this deeply personal and honest conversation, we explore the hidden emotional lives of men. We talk about father wounds, identity, shame, grief, friendship, masculinity, mental health, and the pressure many men feel to always appear strong. Together, we reflect on the messages we inherited about what it means to be a man and how those messages continue to shape our marriages, our families, our relationships, and our sense of self. This is not a conversation about blaming our past. It is about understanding it. Because what remains unspoken does not disappear. It simply finds another way to be heard.
More than anything, this episode is an invitation. An invitation for men to stop carrying burdens they were never meant to carry alone. An invitation to revisit the boy inside the man with compassion rather than shame. An invitation to believe that strength is not found in hiding, but in honesty. Whether you are a husband, a father, a son, or simply a man trying to navigate life as best you can, this conversation is a reminder that healing begins when we find the courage to say the things we could not say before. Because sometimes the path to becoming a healthier man starts by listening to the boy you once were.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 23: FATHERS WE NEED TO BE HONESTThis Father's Day, we talk about responsibility, legacy, preparation, and what happens to the people we love when life doesn't go according to plan. We unpack the financial, emotional, and practical realities of fatherhood, marriage, and leadership. From raising children and building family culture to preparing for the unexpected, this conversation challenges husbands to think beyond today and consider the future they are creating for the people who depend on them.
What struck me most about this conversation was how often men assume there will always be more time, more time to save, more time to plan and more time to have difficult conversations. More time to become the husband, father, and provider they know they should be. But life does not always give us the luxury of more time. Through stories of friendship loss, parenting, financial mistakes, personal growth, and hard earned wisdom, this episode confronts a question many men would rather avoid. If something happened to you tomorrow, would your family be protected, prepared, and cared for?At its heart, this is not a conversation about money, it is a conversation about love. Because love plans, prepares, and thinks beyond itself. Whether you are a father, a husband, a son, or a man hoping to build a family one day, this episode is an invitation to stop drifting and start leading with intentionality. The greatest legacy we leave our children is not what we say. It is what we build, what we model, and how we choose to care for them long after we are gone.
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 22: THE WOUNDS WE CARRY INTO MARRIAGE Joined by Jabu Zwana, we explore marriage, healing, hypervigilance, childhood wounds, emotional maturity, and the often invisible ways our past shapes our present relationships. Jabu unpacks how our earliest experiences of love, safety, discipline, and belonging quietly become the blueprint through which we interpret marriage. What follows is not merely a conversation about relationships. It is a conversation about fear, identity, trauma, trust, and the difficult process of learning how to receive healthy love when unhealthy love is all you’ve ever known.As husbands, we often assume that healing is simply the absence of pain. But together, we wrestle with a deeper question: what if healing and transformation are not the same thing? What happens when the wounds have closed but our minds and nervous systems are still preparing for danger? Why do some of us struggle to trust kindness, receive affection, or believe that peace can be genuine? Through powerful insights on childhood conditioning, parental influence, marriage dynamics, and emotional regulation, Jabu reveals how unresolved pain often leaves us living in a state of hypervigilance—constantly scanning for threats, questioning love, and protecting ourselves from wounds that may no longer be present.We discuss the dangers of entering marriage with a “back door” left open, the impact of being overprotected or emotionally neglected as children, and how our understanding of love is often shaped long before we ever say “I do.” We explore why some people find comfort in chaos, why healthy relationships can feel unfamiliar or even threatening, and how past experiences can distort our ability to interpret the actions of those who genuinely love us. Throughout the conversation, Jabu masterfully connects psychology, faith, neuroscience, and lived experience to explain why so many couples find themselves fighting battles that began long before they met each other.
More than anything, this episode is an invitation to examine the stories we tell ourselves about love. It is for the husband who struggles to trust peace, the wife who feels exhausted from constantly proving her intentions, and the couple who find themselves reacting to old wounds inside a new relationship.
 
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 21: YOU CANNOT HEAL WHAT YOU CANNOT ADMITJoined by Ian Henderson, we explore pornography, shame, father wounds, masculinity, accountability, and the lifelong journey of becoming whole. Ian shares the heartbreaking story of his father's secret addiction, the devastating consequences it had on his family, and how God used one of the darkest chapters of his life to birth a ministry that is now helping thousands of people find freedom. What follows is not merely a conversation about pornography. It is a conversation about pain, secrecy, identity, and the things men run to when they feel overwhelmed, unseen, afraid, or alone. As husbands, we often spend our lives trying to manage symptoms while ignoring the deeper wounds beneath them. Together, we wrestle with the questions many men are afraid to ask. Why do so many men feel overlooked? Why do we struggle to be vulnerable? Why is it so difficult to ask for help? Why do we spend so much energy trying to fix everyone else while avoiding our own brokenness? Through stories of fatherhood, friendship, marriage, confession, and healing, this episode reveals how unresolved pain often follows us into our homes, our relationships, and our leadership. We discuss the importance of honest brotherhood, the role of accountability, and why healing rarely happens in isolation. More than anything, this episode is a reminder that freedom begins where secrecy ends. It is for the husband who feels trapped in patterns he cannot break. It is for the man carrying wounds from his father, the leader who feels exhausted by expectations, and the husband who quietly wonders if anyone truly sees him. This conversation reminded me that transformation is not found in trying harder. It is found in bringing our whole selves into the light and allowing God to meet us there. Because the greatest threat to a man's future is often not his weakness, but the pain he refuses to confront. And the greatest gift he can give his wife, his children, and his community is his willingness to heal. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/#thathusbandpodcast #husbandpodcast #IanHenderson #TheNakedTruthProject #christianmarriage #marriagematters #MenNeedHealing #fatherwounds #freedom #christianmen #healthymasculinity #faithandfamily #marriageconversations #BlackMenHeal #accountabilitymatters #brotherhood #healingjourney #breakingthecycle #marriageandfaith #fatherhoodmatters #menwholead #kingdommarriage #emotionalhealing #FreedomStartsWithHonesty #HusbandsWhoHeal

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 20: BLEEDING ON THOSE YOU LOVEMlungisi opens up about growing up in a fractured home, wrestling with unforgiveness toward his father, navigating anger inside his marriage, and discovering that healing is not automatic just because you love God. Together, we unpack the quiet ways pain travels through generations and how unhealed parts of a man can slowly become collateral damage for the people he loves most. This conversation is not built on perfection or polished answers. It is two husbands speaking honestly about what it looks like to fight for healing while trying to lead families well. We speak about masculinity, vulnerability, accountability, therapy, community, fatherlessness, marriage, leadership, and the weight many black men carry in silence. We wrestle with the tension between grace and accountability, the pressure men feel to perform and provide, and the growing disillusionment young people have toward marriage and family. More than anything, this episode is an invitation for men to stop pretending they are okay and to finally confront the pain they have hidden for years. There is something deeply sacred about hearing another man say, “I was angry. I was broken. I needed help. And God met me there.” This episode reminded me that healing is not about becoming flawless. It is about becoming honest enough to surrender. It is about surrendering to God, trusted community, and even your wife to speak into the parts of you that you would rather keep hidden. For the husband who feels overwhelmed, emotionally distant, tired, or quietly falling apart, this conversation is a reminder that there is still hope for you. You are not beyond healing, you are not beyond restoration, and you do not have to walk this journey alone. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/
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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 19: NOT ALL MARRIAGES ARE BUILT THE SAME This episode is about staying, choosing joy when life is heavy, when grief sits in the room with you, when money is tight, when dreams feel delayed, and when love demands more than feelings. King D Music opens up about dating his wife for six years before marriage, losing his father during one of the most defining seasons of his life, struggling through uncertainty, and learning that joy is not the same thing as happiness. It is a posture, a commitment and a decision to remain present even when life hurts. We wrestle with the realities many husbands are too afraid to say out loud. What does it mean to lead when you feel broken yourself? How do you pursue your calling without neglecting your family? Why do so many men speak about marriage like it is a prison instead of a gift? This conversation moves through grief, masculinity, purpose, temptation, faith, fatherhood, accountability, and the quiet ways God shapes men through love and community. There are no polished answers here. Just two husbands speaking honestly about what it costs to build a life, protect a marriage, and become the kind of men their families can trust. More than anything, this episode is for the man who feels tired. The man wondering if he should give up on the dream, on the marriage, on himself. It is for the husband trying to carry responsibility while still healing from his own wounds. It is for the black boy who grew up without examples and the black man trying to become one. This conversation reminded us that real strength is not found in pretending everything is okay. It is found in surrender, in honesty, in staying soft enough to love deeply, and in trusting God enough to keep going. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandPodcast #marriageconversations #BlackLove #christianmarriage #marriagematters #JoyInMarriage #faithandmarriage #BlackMenHeal #healthymarriage #KingDMusic #marriagejourney #purposedrivenlife #menwholead #marriagepodcast #christianmen #fatherhoodmatters #loveandcommitment #MarriageTruths #gospelculture #RelationshipWisdom #kingdommarriage #southafricanpodcasts #thejoyofthelord